Ballzy or Bossy????
Do you think I'm bossy? Its a simple question. One I've often asked over the years. Some people laugh at me and say 'ofcourse not!', others say 'yeah, maybe!'. The thought of being bossy horrifies me. I don't want to order people around and tell everyone what to do. I like to think I'm nice and sweet and, well, not bossy!!! But there are times when you have to tell people what to do right? How else will anything ever get done? I do have three kids so right there I've perfected the art of telling them what to do. I just didnt think I'd extended it out beyond my four walls of home. But maybe I have.
You see I put a call out on Facebook for the 4370 friends of mine who havn't yet 'liked' my business page to please like it. I felt like that was the least they could do considering we were apparently 'friends'. It is right?? So anyway, there was a comment that followed saying something along the lines of me being bossy enough to have 300 of my friends 'like' the page. So it got me thinking. Oh No!! OMG!!! Was I being bossy here?? I asked my husband to read it. He never confirmed but I could tell by the look on his face that he agreed. Again, OMG, maybe I AM bossy!!
But then came another comment from another FB friend saying 'what a ballzy thing to do'. I liked that. Ballzy! Yeah, I can be ballzy. So what exactly is the difference. Well this is my take on the whole thing. Bossy is demanding people do what you want them to do. Ballzy on the other hand is taking charge of your life and the outcomes you expect and putting some action into place to achieve it. Hopefully in a half decently nice way.
So no more Miss Bossy Boots for me. I'll be nice but I will be in control, steering things the way I believe they should go. All the while, being considerate of others but always aware of the outcome I desire and going for it. Thats Ballzy!!
Sue
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March 5, 2012 3:44 am
By Sharon Tregoning, March 5, 2012 @ 7:14 am
Sue, I would suggest this parallel for you. I love my daughter, but I don't like everything she does & I expect it works the other way as well. And I believe that is healthy.
With my pages, I would much rather have only my friends with whom my pages (businesses) resonate actually like them & be fully engaged in them than artificially amplify the numbers. We have freewill & free choice & I do not expect all of my friends en masse to go & like all of my pages (& I have less than 400 friends). I have wide diversity in my friends & know that not everything I do is appropriate for all of my friends to participate. I appreciate them being authentic to themselves rather than just playing the numbers game.
Just my thoughts.
Sharon xxx
By Ceinie, March 5, 2012 @ 7:20 am
Great Blog – you bosssy – no, and I have known you in a number of feilds, Ballsy – well, that sounds to blokey for me, but you have been assertive and stood up for whats right for you. You have stepped out of your comfort zone, taken risks, been brave and I call that courage and just look at where you are today – Wow. So what if all your friends didn't like your page ( same thing happened to me on Health from the Heart). These people probably are not your perfect client, or people to market to. As for negative people look away from them as positive ones enter your life, its not that you hate them, its just that you love yourself more.
Love your work
Ceinie xo
By Marina, March 5, 2012 @ 9:03 am
Hootzpa is what you have in truckloads
I suggest you multiply your number of interested likers by asking your current RHE likers to ‘bring a friend’ . They are already your niche market, grown organically – sometimes when we have a great business contact, we don’t always share for fear the bigger a service grows – the more expensive or unavailable it becomes- RHE will just get bigger and better for everyone
By Jenni Parry, March 5, 2012 @ 3:18 pm
Forget the numbers game… numbers are a whole lot of bullshit!!!! If you had 1000 people who liked your business page and zero of them interacted or visited it. The number 1000 means nothing. 1,2 or even 10 people who interact, join in and form a community has infinite value.
Same goes for number of times an event is promoted. It is the difference between getting a years rain fall in a day or a years rain fall over the space of 12 months… The light springing spread over 12 months will nurture and grow relationships instead of them being washed away in the deluge. Time and energy then has to go in to rescue and rebuild the lost relationships.
Organic and wholesome relationships with a connection are what i get from Red Hot Events, being surround by like minded people who are different yet we share the same connection is what i want regardless of the number of people. Having lots of people who don't want to make a connection and just want to blast their business is exactly what i am avoiding.
By Karen Clarke, March 5, 2012 @ 3:26 pm
Not ballsy, not bossy, just beautifully passionate about what you are doing. Perhaps the word could be bold or brave? Success is not for the faint hearted and requires great leaps of faith at times. Good for you Sue. xxx :-)
By Kylie, March 5, 2012 @ 4:12 pm
That's so hilarious Sue thanks for sharing – ballsy from me means that you are prepared when you feel it necessary to take it up to someone in a no-hesitation no-prejudice way.
Men have learned to do that traditionally – we don't ape their approach (note the verb) but we do need to go toe to toe with people at times these days.
It's not masculine but I guess it does come from me working for 12+ years in a male dominated IT world in the 90s.
By @KrishnaEverson, March 5, 2012 @ 9:13 pm
Hey Sue, I would not think of you as bossy! Passionate YES! By the way, in the words of Betty White (of Golden Girls fame) "Why do people say 'grow some balls'? Balls are weak and sensitive! If you really want to get tough, grow a vagina! Those things take a pounding! Betty White
P.S. I TOTALLY agree with Jenni Parry's comment. Quality not quantity.
By Annie Infinite, March 7, 2012 @ 11:16 am
LOL I would NEVER call you bossy Sue and remember people see things through their own glasses and sometimes they need a new prescription to help adjust that skewed perspective LOL I always tell people I have balls they're just higher up and the older you get the more you know about what you do and don't like some people call that bossy – however if you are just making a suggestion it is up to the person hearing or reading it to either take it on board and act or not… and has nothing to do with you being bossy. So go out and get what you want girlfriend – I'm right there with you xx